Speaking of Children

Lesson 7

Speaking of Children: Barbara Holland

 

Summary

 

Barbara Holland supports the view of haring single child for happy life. Through her essay ‘Speaking of children' she suggests all to give birth only one child for happy family. Barbara says that one child is like an organ of own baby. It is a part of life. A single child can be easily handled and looked after. Husband and wife can easily move single child. They can maintain family expense very well.

 

Barbara says that more than one child is a way of life. More children need more are, time and money, So, parents do not live their life for own self rather live for children. They do not get time to enjoy the weekend. They have to go to bed late at night. On the one hand family expense increases and on the other there is always quarrel in a family. When children grow old, hardly parents get clearance to use telephone. Barbara Holland argues that for a happy life, husband and wife should talk in secret about their whole day activities. But, if there is more than one child, parents never get chance to talk in secret. Always children disturb them. Later they have to follow written form. But when the children become able to read and write, husband and wife can only talk in telephone in office hour. Hence, Barbara Holland boldly advocates for luring only one child to live happy and comfortable life. More than one child is not only economic burden but also psychological stress.



Short Answer Questions

 

1. Mention the reasons why Barbara Holland is not in favor of having plural children.

 

2076 Partial E Q No.5c

 

The feeling of Barbara Holland regarding plural children is not good. She expresses her irritation to them by means of talking about the advantages of having single child and disadvantages of having many children.

 

She believes that one child is an appendage but more than one is a way of life. One child is outnumbered and parents can brainwash it, carry it to parties, toss it on the bed with the coats and make it whatever they want. It is usually easy to look after one child. It is a part of their lives. Her feeling to the plural children is conveyed through these points of her favor to the single child. The essay is ironical in nature.

 

Expressing her feeling about having plural children she writes plural children are a counter culture in the house. Parents are outnumbered by the children. In other words, parents must accept or do something they do not want but they are compelled to do certain undesired things. They have to buy many toy sets and they cannot go to the weekend where they like. They have to move to better schools for their children. They have to be involved in many social converse / talk / discussions. They are pushed backwards. Above all they have to lose peace and privacy because they are frequently interrupted by their children. Then, there is bitter look in everyone. When there is secrecy, they have to talk in phone from their office. In this way, the children will not let the parents talk peacefully and privately. Even the plural children can become a real danger for a family because many marriages break up in America just due to the children. As a whole, mothers of plural children have no peace in their life They have to sleep with startling suddenness and finality or determination. So, this essay is against having many children

 

Thus, Barbara Holland expresses her feeling about the plural children by talking both about a single child and plural children. She only points out the disadvantages of having plural children in the essay which convinces her readers that her feeling towards them is not positive.



2. Why is Barbara Holland in favor of a single child? (5)

 

2070 Partial q.No.5a, 2071 Supp. Q.No.5a, 2075 GIE Q.No.5b and 2075 Set A Q.No.5c

 

Barbara Holland's powerful essay mentions disadvantages of having plural children. She doesn't talk about the advantages of having plural children though there may be some. Elaborating the disadvantages of having plural children, she says having many children in the house is certainly a matter of burden. They disturb the privacy between husband and wife without letting them chances of private talk related to their job, income, business and their experiences of their duty and so on. Barbara says plural children are a counter culture in the house. Parents are outnumbered by the children. In other words, parents must accept or do something they do not want but they are compelled to do certain undesired things. They have to buy many toy sets and they cannot go to the weekend where they like. They have to move to better schools for their children. They have to be involved in many social converse / talk discussions. They are pushed backwards. Above all, they have to lose peace and privacy because they are frequently interrupted by their children. Then, there is bitter look in everyone. When there is secrecy, they have to talk in phone from their office in this way, the children will not let the parents talk peacefully and privately. Even the plural children can become a real danger for a family because many marriages break up in America just due to the children. As a whole. mothers of plural children have no peace in their life. They have to sleep with startling suddenness and finally or determination.



3. How do plural children become counter culture in the family, according to Barbara Holland?

 

2072 Supp Q.No.5b, and 2075 Set B Q.No.5c

 

Barbara Holland showed her reactions against having many children by discussing the disadvantages of having them. Plural children will be counter-culture in the house and the parents will be outnumbered. There will be no place left in the living room because of the toys all over. The rooms are always dirty with their toys thrown all over. It becomes impossible for the

parents to try the telephone or piano. The telephone is always engaged by the children. The keyboards of the telephone or the piano are always dirty. Long pleasure trips will be shortened. The parents will be obliged to adjust themselves according to new situation. First priority will have to be given to the children and their matters. The house will be at sixes and sevens. Above all, there will be no privacy for the wife and the husband. They will be interfered and interrupted by the children at every possible moment. Surprisingly enough due to lack of proximity, the husband and wife will be reduced to the stage of strangers unless some solution is found out to end the new problem. Thus her reaction is not positive.



4. What does Barbara Holland say about plural children? Why? (5)

 

2060 Q.No.4a, 2071 Set C Q.No.4b, 2075 Partial D Q.No.4a, and 2075 Set C Q.No.5a

 

Barbara Holland says about having many children in her essay, "Speaking of Children." She argues that many children in the family is a mere burden Holland is more concerned about the peace and privacy between the couple. Unlike the women of Eastern society, she wants the individual freedom which she thinks is impossible in the case of plural children.

 

Thus, she says that having many children is like establishing counter culture in your home Your living room is with filled matchbox cars and doll clothes. You cannot go to New York to pass your weekend instead you have to go to Disneyland. You have to spend your time talking with the people you have never met before because your children know their children Even in the time of emergency you hardly get chance to use telephone. When you, husband and wife talk of somebody, your children come and interrupt you saying "who's he?". Until the children know reading and writing you can have conversation by writing but after they are grown up it is not possible. To talk with each other you need to use office telephone.

 

By talking about many children, she again says having more than one child is an obstacle of happy married life. More than one child is ways of liter Parents have to change their way of life into the children's way of life since the parents are outnumbered, the parents hardly get time for their private affair. The children always come in between. The mother of plural child gets tired and by the time she goes to bed sleep faster. So, they even don't get time to share their idea even in bed time. Moreover, your holiday plan should be changed because of plural children. The parents search for cheaper and nearby place etc.

 

So, by making one child an appendage of the life, Barbara Holland says that many children in the family and in the life of their parents are the obstacle Neither the parents can sleep better, nor can they talk better, neither can they enjoy their holiday better, nor can they make phone call better. The house is something like a piano Jelly.



5. How does Barbara Holland show her reaction against having many children? Explain.

 

2073 Partial B Q.No.5a

 

Barbara says that more than one child is a way of life. More children need more care, time and money. So, parents do not live their life for own self rather live for children. They do not get time to enjoy the weekend They have to go to bed late at night on the one hand family expenses increases and on the her there is always quarrel in a family. When children grow old, hardly parents get chance to use telephone. Barbara Holland argues that for a happy life, husband and wife should talk in secret about their whole day activities. But, if there is more than one child, parents never get chance to talk in secret Always children disturb them. Later they have to follow written form. But when the children become able to read and write, husband and wife can only talk in telephone in office hour.

Barbara Holland shows her reaction against having many children.


6. What is the central idea of the essay "Speaking of Children"? 

 

2072 Set E Q.No.5b

 

Central Idea of the Essay "Speaking of Children' is an essay by Barbara Holland in which she delightfully and critically examines the idea of having more than one child and the consequent expenses of parents. The entire essay centers round the issue of having a single child is far better than to have money. The essayist goes on arguing the possible difficulties and disasters which the parents have it bear if a house is filled with many children. The essay talks about the healthy marriage life of the parents which she thinks is possible in case of having a single child. happiness of the husband and wife counts for her. She indirectly mocks the traditional society which competes for the number of the children. This small essay is beautiful portrayal of the realities of the post married life.


7. What are the advantages and disadvantages of having plural children? Describe.

 

2070 Set B Supp Q.No.5a

 

Barbara Holland is clear in her view regarding the number of the children. She is a modern woman who thinks the peace and privacy between the husband and wife is greater than the happiness of the children and neither has she thought the plural children can be happy. So she is not in favor of plural children. She makes this stand clear by writing that plural children are a counter culture in the house. Parents are outnumbered by the children. In other words, parents must accept or do something they do not want but they are compelled to do certain undesired things

 

They have to buy many toy sets and they cannot go to the weekend where they like They have to move to better schools for their children. They have to be involved in many social converse / talk / discussions. They are pushed backwards. Above all, they have to lose peace and privacy because they are frequently interrupted by their children. Then, there is bitter look in everyone. When there is secrecy, they have to talk in phone from their office. In this way, the children will not let the parents talk peacefully and privately. Even the plural children can become a real danger for a family because many marriages break up in America just due to the children. As a whole, mothers of plural children are not themselves but other. They have not their individual life rather impose their life in the life of their children. They can never spend a healthy and happy marriage life in the case of plural children. Thus, she is not in favor of plural children.



8. How does the author try to convince that it is better to have one child, rather than having several children? (5)

 

2066 Q.No.5c

 

The author, Barbara Holland convinces her readers in favor of single child rather than having many children by providing the disadvantages of having many children and advantages of having single child. To show it she includes conflict that lay in between the parents of plural children and their children. To

 

convince that the single child is better than the plural children she begins her essay with a humble statement one child is an appendage and more than one is a way of life' The statement genuinely implies

 

that single child like our body and we can attach him or her in our body and we can carry wherever we go or whatever our circumstances may be. Again to make her argument or point strong she talks about the disadvantages of having plural children. She thinks that she could convince her reader in favor of single child better by talking about the problems of having plural children. Thus she writes, having many children in the house is certainly a matter of burden. It is obvious that it is quite hard for the parents to provide proper care and affection equally for their all children Consequently the children are abided from good education proper health care and other facilities, which are the key components for the overall development of children's personality. Moreover they disturb the privacy between husband and wife without letting them chances of private talk related to their job, Income, business and their experiences of their duty and so on. In a sense they need to be worried all the time for their future prospects as well as to satisfy their

 

unsuitable demands of hunger and enjoyment. The essayist minutely examines some other dark sides in this regard like they make their house dirty, create unnecessary noise and make wounds in their body which ultimately goes in the hands of parents in this way she convinces that the single child is better than the plural children



9. What are the disadvantages of having plural children? (5)

 

2061 Q. No 5a

 

There are many disadvantages of having plural children according to the author Barbara Holland They will be counter-culture in the house and the parents will be outnumbered. There will be no place left in the living room because of the toys all over. The rooms are always dirty with their toys thrown all over It becomes impossible for the parents to try the telephone or piano. The telephone is always engaged by the children. The keyboards of the telephone or the piano are always dirty Long pleasure trips will be shortened. The parents will be obliged to adjust themselves according to new situation First priority will have to be given to the children and their matters. The house will be at sixes and sevens. Above all, there will be no privacy for the wife and the husband. They will be interfered and interrupted by the children at every possible moment Surprisingly enough, due to lack of proximity, the husband and wife will be reduced to the stage of strangers unless some solution is found out to end the new problem



Long Question Answer

 

10. The author 'Barbara Holland seems worried about losing her peace, privacy and loneliness rather than the financial burden plural children may bring in the family. Explain [10]

 

2073 Set C Q.No.4b

 

The author 'Barbara Holland' seems worried about losing her peace, privacy and loneliness rather than the financial burden plural children may bring in the family. To justify this statement, she presents the problems of having plural children in the family. All the problems are associated with the parents' happiness. Barbara says that more than one child is a way of life. More children need more care, time and money. So, parents do not live their life for own self rather live for children. They do not get time to enjoy the weekend. They have to go to bed late at night. When children grow older, parents hardly get chance to use telephone. Barbara Holland argues that for a happy life, husband and wife should talk in secret about their whole day activities. But, if there is more than one child, parents never get chance to talk in secret. Always children disturb them. Later they have to follow written form. But when the children become able to read and write, husband and wife can only talk in husband and wife relation is not disturbed in case there is a single child. Barbara says that one child is like an organ of own baby. It is a part of life. A single child can be easily handled and looked after. Husband and wife can easily move single child. They can maintain family expense very well. Thus, more than the economic burden, the plural children in the family disturb the peace, privacy and loneliness of the parents.




11. Why is Barbara Holland in favor of a single child? [10] 

 

2069 Q.No.4a, and 2073 Partial A Q.No.4a

 

‘Speaking of children’ is an essay by Barbara Holland in which she delightfully yet critically examines the idea of having more than one child and the consequent expenses of parents. The entire essay centers round the issue that having a single child is far better than having many children. The essayist goes on arguing the possible difficulties and disasters which Discuss Speaking of Children' is an essay by Barbara Holland the parents have it bear if a house is filled with many children.

 

She is in favor of the single child as it is an appendage of life. The single child is like our body part which we can carry wherever we go or whatever our circumstances may be in. But having many children in the house is certainly a matter of burden It is obvious that it is quite hard for the parents to provide proper care and affection equally for their all children Consequently the children are abided from good education proper health care and other facilities which are the key components for the overall development of children's personality. Moreover they disturb the privacy between husband and wife without letting them chances of private talk related to their job, income, business and their experiences of their duty and so on in a sense they need to be worried all the time for their future prospects as well as to satisfy their unsuitable demands of hunger and enjoyment. The essayist minutely examines some other dark sides in this regard like they make their house dirty, create unnecessary noise, and make wounds in their body, which ultimately goes in the hands of parents. In case of single child, the parents are immune with these many problems. So, Barbara Holland is in favor of a single child.

 

In this way, she strongly suggests us to have a single child for the happiness and prosperity of family life. She shows the expenses that the parents get in case of many children so as to favor the single child.



12. Write a newspaper article on the advantages of having a single child.

 

2068 Q.No.4a

 

In Nepal we have still not started thinking that the numbers of children in the family determine the happiness We think still today more the hands more the income and the children are the god's gifts. We are not aware about the quality of life and meaning of happiness. Actually, more the children more problems the parents face. Quite opposite to that, the parents of a single child are benefited in number of ways. They have less economic burden, individual freedom and healthy married life. Thus, there are many advantages of having single family:

 

When there is only one child, it is outnumbered by the parents. In other words, the parents control the child but if there is more than one child, the children control the parents. It's not only that. There are many other advantages of a singular child. The parents can brainwash a single child. They can teach the child all sorts of good things including good discipline and good manners. The parents can provide many things to the child. They can buy all types of things that are required to develop the creative faculty of their child and more than that, the parents live their life fully and freely. They have peace and privacy They are themselves but not the strangers. One child doesn't disturb the life of the parents and it is an appendage. The parents can live freely and happily. They can make him/her whatever they like easily. A single child is easy to care and bring up There are good chances of peace, privacy, happy family and free environment in the family.

 

Similarly, a single child in the house can never be a matter of burden. It is obvious that it is quite hard for the parents to provide proper care and affection equally for their all children. Consequently, the children are abided from good education, proper health care and other facilities, which are the key components for the overall development of children's personality. But in case of single child they can give everything he wants, be it education or entertainment. In a sense they needn't to worry all the time for its future prospects as well as to satisfy its unsuitable demands of hunger and enjoyment. He doesn't make the house dirty, create unnecessary noise.

 

To sum up, there are many expenses of having plural children. A single child is like the appendage of our body. Time has changed, our living standard should also be changed We can make a lot of difference promoting our living standard simply by controlling the number of children. Both the parents and child are advantaged in case of the single child. Thus, this is a time to change our traditional and religious eastern thoughts of having many children in to the idea of having single child.


13. How does Barbara Holland express her feeling about having many children? [10]

 

2058 Q.No.4a, and 2062 Q.No.4a

 

The feeling of Barbara Holland regarding plural children is not good. She expresses her irritation to them by means of talking about the advantages of having single child and disadvantages of having many children.

 

She believes that one child is an appendage but more than one is a way of life. One child is outnumbered and parents can brainwash it, carry it to parties, toss it on the bed with the coats and make it whatever they want. It is usually easy to look after one child. It is a part of their lives. Her feeling to the plural children is conveyed through these points of her favor to the single child. The essay is ironical in nature.

 

Expressing her feeling about having plural children she writes plural children are a counter culture in the house. Parents are outnumbered by the children. In other words, parents must accept or do something they do not want but they are compelled to do certain undesired things They have to buy many toy sets and they cannot go to the weekend where they like They have to move to better schools for their children. They have to be involved in many social converse / talk discussions. They are pushed backwards. Above all, they have to lose peace and privacy because they are frequently interrupted by their children. Then, there is bitter look in everyone. When there is secrecy, they have to talk in phone from their office. In this way, the children will not let the parents talk peacefully and privately. Even the plural children can become a real danger for a family because many marriages break up in America just due to the children. As a whole mother of plural children have no peace in their life. They have to sleep with starting suddenness and finality or determination. So, this essay is against having many children.

 

Thus, Barbara Holland expresses her feeling about the plural children by talking both about a single child and plural children She only points out the disadvantages of having plural children in the essay which convinces her readers that her feeling towards them is not positive.



14. Describe the writer's attitude to plural children. [10]

 

2056 Q.No.4b

 

The attitude of the Writer, Barbara Holland, to plural children is not positive. She doesn't like plural children in her house and suggests her reader to have a single child. The way she documents the disadvantages of having plural children in the essay makes us clear that Holland is negative to idea of having the plural children. She presents the horrified couple in the essay who are pertinently obstructed by their children at their meeting.

 

Barbara's attitude is clear when she says in the case of plural children you have to change the style of living according to their needs You have to focus on their lives forgetting yours. She thinks it is really important to have private conversation between husband and wife but your children don't let you do so if they are many. As a result, you have to talk on phone when you are in office, writes notes or talk to each other in some other language which your children don't understand. Barbara says having many children in the house is certainly a matter of burden. It is obvious that it is quite hard for the parents to provide proper care and affection equally for their all children. Consequently, the children are abided from good education proper health care and other facilities, which are the key components for the overall development of children's personality. Moreover, they disturb the privacy between husband and wife without letting them chances of private talk related to their job, income, business and their experiences of their duty and so on. In a sense they need to be worried all the time for their future prospects as well as to satisfy their unsuitable demands of hunger and enjoyment. The essayist minutely examines some other dark sides in this regard like they make their house dirty, create unnecessary noise, and make wounds in their body. which ultimately goes in the hands of parents. This illustrates that her attitude to the plural children is negative

 

Eventually, the essayist makes an appeal to the readers so as to make us aware of in time from committing such a mistake. She strongly suggests us to have a single child for the happiness and prosperity of family life.

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